Boundaries are a HUGE piece to the puzzle of self care. It establishes your beliefs in relationships, rules for how others are to treat you, and moral/ethical code in a sense.
When you set boundaries, you’re telling others what’s ok and what’s not ok in your life.
Some individuals develop this strong sense of need for power and control. They’re often described as being narcissistic.
Narcs use manipulation to gain power, by breaking down a person’s mind. They do everything from gaslighting to emotionally neglecting an individual, so that the ball stays in their field.
They also hate boundaries!
There’s are a few articles that further explain the signs of Psychological and Emotional forms of Manipulation.
- 14 Signs of Psychological and Emotional Manipulation
- 33 Ways People try to Manipulate You
- The 9 Terms and Phrases You Need to Know if You Think You’re Being Manipulated
Manipulative, abusive people tend to be cruel to their partners, and hurl insults at them. They sometimes are also physically violent. However, they didn’t start off this way when they were reeling in their victim.
Manipulators also give their partners intermittent periods of love and compliments to get them to stick around. These moments are given when the partner has “behaved” or has done something right. It’s a way of being conditioned, and the victim gets biologically addicted to the emotional push and pull.
Lindsay Dodgson, Business Insider
This above is the scariest technique, in my opinion. It’s the one that most confuses the heart & mind… while the manipulator uses other techniques to further gain power.
💗 The key to boundaries is to understand your worth!!
Whether you have, or know someone who has, dealt with this ridiculous toxicity , I hope you KNOW your boundaries matter. They’re so important for YOUR health… And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with
- Deciding them.
- Having them.
- Enforcing them.
If you’re not sure how to go about doing this, or need to talk about this subject with someone, let me further encourage you. You deserve the very best. Be actively involved in advocating for you!
Know Your Worth; Own Your Life 
It is quite important to tell others about the red line they shouldn’t ever cross.
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I think so too. Sadly, some individuals aren’t grown enough to accept that this uncomfortable conversation happens occasionally. Maybe, as a society, poor communication has been coupled with that fear of issues unable to be resolved.
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This has long been an issue for me. Good post!
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Hugs Paula!! It’s so easy for one to start with charm and twist the life right out of us. I’m here for you!
What happened? WordPress made you unfollowed me?
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No, I unfollowed most in a housekeeping purge and am slowly putting the good bloggers back ❤️
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Well, I’m thankful to see you again🧡🧡🧡
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Me too ~ you!
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Don’t you host a challenge? 3 Things?
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Di took that over, though I do host “Thursday Inspiration”
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Good blog post! I’m currently dealing with a toxic person. She turned it on me and made me sound like I was the crazy one! My solution to dealing with her was not through reason, but by changing the subject completely. I tried reasoning with her and she ignores me for a week. I try changing the subject and she responds within the hour. Try not to engage with them too much… they want a reaction, and they want agreement. Anything hat deviates from their beliefs will result in toxic overload.
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You’re absolutely right, toxic overload. I’m so sorry you’ve encouraged her; but, I’m so proud of you for sticking to your guns. Lots of toxic people thrive on drama and negative energy. They push further when they realize their losing grip on someone.
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I tried to reason with her in a calm and collected way but it didn’t work. I don’t feel guilty for setting boundaries and stating how I truly felt. Indeed, the want people to join in and their negativity is contagious.😔
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